• The 16 Guidelines for Life

    Can ethics be more about compassion than compliance?

  • About Mindfulness

    Mindfulness is the opposite of distraction: knowing what’s happening while it’s happening. It’s a faculty we all possess, and one that we can train.

What clients have said

Many coaches fall into the trap of advising, often unconsciously imposing or suggesting solutions that may fit them or may seem the obvious way ahead. This way, the coachee may be misled into a direction which is not really his or her own. Perhaps the quality I found most beneficial in Patrick's coaching style is the fact that he has displayed a canny ability to avoid this trap and thus is capable of helping the coachee to get closer to solutions that will indeed fit him/her. And that is what coaching is meant to be.

 - Wolfgang Ricke, former Finance Director of Sony Nordic


He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have.
 - Socrates

How My Coaching Can Help You

My coaching creates self-sustaining growth in your life, both personal and professional. The form that takes depends on your context. It might be a shift to more helpful behaviour patterns, a change of career direction, practising new ways of relating, or transforming stuckness into fresh possibility! You are the expert on your own life. The core skill I bring is to catalyse and support your learning and growth in the area you want to address.

My coaching uses mindful awareness, powerful reflection, incisive questioning and a secular framework of virtue ethics, all within an approach of genuine appreciation and compassion, to facilitate my clients' full and long-term flourishing.

» Read what past clients have said


Our brains are programmable, and we are the programmersSocially and culturally, the knowledge of our own capacity for self-creation is a fulcrum, the differentiator between two stages of development.

Thanks to science and the discovery of neuroplasticity, we know that we can train our brains. This a matter of empirical fact, not opinion. Thanks to the contemplative traditions, we know how to train our minds. The knowledge that we are doing so all the time whether we like it or not – in other words, that we are always active agents in our own self-creation – can be felt to confer a deeper sense of moral responsibility (as well as power). It is a new freedom and a new burden, depending on how we relate to it.

Read more: Self-creation as a cultural fulcrum

One of the major perks of this job is seeing the beneficial impact of mindfulness training on people's lives.

First, you make a connection with reality, with what is. You simply meet it. That requires letting go of two old companions who have been impersonating reality, holding you by the hand and guiding you: what you fear, and what you hope for.

Their palms are clammy and familiar, and letting them go to meet with reality is not a particularly glorious feat. It is totally ordinary, even mundane, because what is will not entertain you or accommodate your hangups. It has no bias towards you or against you. That is why it is reliable.

Making that connection is the first step towards making friends with reality. Over time, that friendship can become a deep love affair, and a love affair with what is has no end.