• The 16 Guidelines for Life

    Can ethics be more about compassion than compliance?

  • About Mindfulness

    Mindfulness is the opposite of distraction: knowing what’s happening while it’s happening. It’s a faculty we all possess, and one that we can train.

What clients have said

Nothing has made as much sense, in the past years, as this has.

 - Coaching client, October 2013

Quotes

The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And because we fail to notice that we fail to notice, there is little we can do to change.

 - R.D. Laing

How My Coaching Can Help You

My coaching creates self-sustaining growth in your life, both personal and professional. The form that takes depends on your context. It might be a shift to more helpful behaviour patterns, a change of career direction, practising new ways of relating, or transforming stuckness into fresh possibility! You are the expert on your own life. The core skill I bring is to catalyse and support your learning and growth in the area you want to address.

My coaching uses mindful awareness, powerful reflection, incisive questioning and a secular framework of virtue ethics, all within an approach of genuine appreciation and compassion, to facilitate my clients' full and long-term flourishing.

» Read what past clients have said

 

Our brains are programmable, and we are the programmersSocially and culturally, the knowledge of our own capacity for self-creation is a fulcrum, the differentiator between two stages of development.

Thanks to science and the discovery of neuroplasticity, we know that we can train our brains. This a matter of empirical fact, not opinion. Thanks to the contemplative traditions, we know how to train our minds. The knowledge that we are doing so all the time whether we like it or not – in other words, that we are always active agents in our own self-creation – can be felt to confer a deeper sense of moral responsibility (as well as power). It is a new freedom and a new burden, depending on how we relate to it.

Read more: Self-creation as a cultural fulcrum

One of the major perks of this job is seeing the beneficial impact of mindfulness training on people's lives.

First, you make a connection with reality, with what is. You simply meet it. That requires letting go of two old companions who have been impersonating reality, holding you by the hand and guiding you: what you fear, and what you hope for.

Their palms are clammy and familiar, and letting them go to meet with reality is not a particularly glorious feat. It is totally ordinary, even mundane, because what is will not entertain you or accommodate your hangups. It has no bias towards you or against you. That is why it is reliable.

Making that connection is the first step towards making friends with reality. Over time, that friendship can become a deep love affair, and a love affair with what is has no end.